What can sabotage our relationships, our very being, our work? I believe the strongest saboteur is: Visions, images, little videos we put in our heads!
An example, one of the hardest tasks for me is to become free of my past, free from what holds me back. And by free, I don’t mean forget, leave behind, I mean bring along and move forward. I feel that if my loved ones, 2 legged or 4 legged have gone, how can I have the heart to move forward without them. Leave them behind.
I was a caregiver to my hubby for more than a decade, and then, when my hubby died, I was working from home. During this time, for the last 12 years, I also had by my side, my Nikki, the golden retriever. We were together 24/7. When you have a golden, you are never really alone; they get in your head, your heart and even your business.
And now that I lost my girl, I keep having these visions of images. The kind of images that we have all seen on the internet. Images of dogs leaving this world, walking down this golden path through the trees, away from life, away from us. So now, my days consist of me saying, over and over again, “I am sorry you had to leave me” “I am sorry you cannot play in the park with me, I am sorry you cannot see the sunsets with me, the sunrises ” … I feel like I abandoned her.
And this morning, while out for my walk, I had that same vision again, that same image in my head, and of course once more proceeded to cry. And then I thought! HEY, STOP SABOTAGING YOURSELF!
I created a new vision instead. One where instead of seeing any one person or pet walking away from me, I now envision them walking right along side of me! Walking with me, wherever I am going. It takes a while to force this vision to totally replace the old one. But, it’s getting there.
And so, maybe once again, I can become the person my husband fell in love with, and the same person my dogs loved so much :), instead of being the person that is not able to move forward anymore.
We all have to beware of the images we have in our heads. Especially the ones that hold us back, that sabotage us, the ones that mostly, are NOT even realistic. And, we all have them. If some preconceived idea is holding you back from attaining exactly what you want. You CAN change it, it is in your power.
It takes work, it’s hard. But it an be done. Success and happiness to us all!